You know that old line, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? We equate these genders with extra-terrestrial life outside of Earth; the perceived differences between the two have had us intrigued, scared and baffled for generations and will likely continue to do so in the future as well. Imagine being a woman and being compared to an unknown, possibly imaginary life form just because you have evolved much more than required or anticipated.

Now, the question of the hour is this: Who sets the bar for what is required of a woman and what is not? How and why is a woman judged as a human based on her success and credentials? Once a woman reaches higher levels of success, is she deemed a potential object of threat to those around her?

Her level of intelligence, fame and success are directly judged alongside how she relates to and what emotions she holds for her next of kin. People take their fanciful thinking to a whole new level in fearing that a successful woman will ‘stand up’ or ‘speak out’; something seen as highly detrimental for the welfare of the family in certain circles. People get scared thinking of the fact that a highly educated woman might not bend to the norms of the household and society. And why is that such a threat? Well, I still haven’t been able to have a grasp that stereotypical mindset. More research is required to decode this, maybe.

What amazes and disappoints me the most is when this negativity comes from a member of the same circle.  Race, caste, creed – does not matter. The amount of looking-down upon and the humiliation women face from their male counterparts is appalling. A highly successful man might be enjoying all the perks in his own life, but he’d still want to control the woman’s life. Take the reins in his own hands. Cage the bird and throw the key away.

MRAs everywhere: “Well actually –”

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However, this kind of behaviour says a lot about men and their chivalry (re: cowardice and insecurity) and how. We have all heard about strong male ego is and can be. So in this particular situation, that male ego simply cannot withstand another strong presence in its vicinity. Men usually don’t like to get challenged and it hurts them even more when the challenge is from someone they have always been taught to dominate. A woman. An intelligent, successful woman at that!

Women have consistently been subject to the common conjecture that it is impossible to decipher women.

MRAs everywhere: “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. Or so I hear. I’ve never actually met one.”


I feel that women’s needs are fairly simple. We want a successful life and a partner who is equally fulfilling. It is men’s needs I am not very sure about in this generation. Especially when they are ‘fishing’ for a partner. It is high time that insecurity and ego be caged and caged for good. Trust me; we can live without that as well.

Please do not alienate a woman just because she is more successful in life than you are or would be ever in your life. Instead of getting intimidated by her achievements, appreciate her hard work and efforts. Take inspiration. Come out of your comfort zone and try to reach the sky like she has. She is a towering success and is as human as you are. Waiting to be touched, discovered and explored. Love her, and she will double it for you. Ignore her and may only God have mercy on you.

“I could not, at any age, be content to take my place by the fireside and simply look on. Life was meant to be lived. Curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.” – Eleanor Roosevelt


About Author

Chris Mallika Bhadra is from India and is a Doctoral candidate in Swinburne University, Melbourne, Australia. Besides being a scientist (not a mad one though), she is an avid reader, trained contemporary dancer and now is an active blogger! Her writings mostly serve out her life experiences on a platter for the reading pleasures of all! You can find her on Facebook (Musings of an unsettled soul) and read more of her work here.

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